I’m thrilled that you “dropped by” as well! Thank you so much for your kind comment. I truly hope you will visit and share your thoughts often.

All my best,
Dr. KC
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Thank you for your comment back! I’m glad you’re writing as you are.

I wanted to address, firstly, that my intent here was NOT to go the bible/religious route, as I never do talk of religion, only faith and spirituality on occasion. This passage I chose, just happens to be written in the bible and I believe it is an absolutely beautiful description of love. This article was talk about love, not religion.

I read all that you are going through and give you kudos for your strength to endure as you most certainly are doing. And when you reach out and tell your story to others, like you do here, you are demonstrating your strength even more. I love the fact that you say, “I do want to move forward.” That is wonderful. Now you have to turn that want into action. You DO have a place to go, you just might not see it or have it figured out yet.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

To the stinking-thinking: The very few people in my life are often the reason I slip into this way of being. I can not escape, yet, as the economy and circumstances (like my 7-year old conviction for a felony) preclude much of what I would undoubtedly be capable of.

I work, but only to keep a mortgage paid for people that I DO not love. In January, the final straw as far as a relationship to me was broke. When you hear a certain phrase - being called akin to another relative - which is at the root cause of the conflict and know that WILL never change, it leaves you no options.

I have a bus ticket, a nearly completely historically minded baseball book ( November 2009, if I don’t get distracted) and that’s all really.

I do want to move forward - just have to have a place to go to.

Thank you for your very kind comment! You are correct when you say it is not easy to trust and many can vouch for that. However, when you do give in and allow yourself to trust and it is returned, you will be elated that you took that risk. Keep hope and keep believing anything is possible!

Please continue reading and writing!
All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

I’m so glad that I gave you “food for thought”. Please keep reading and sharing anytime you wish. You’re always welcome here.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

Love is a very touchy and difficult topic about which to talk. Some will relate and others may feel badly that they cannot relate because they have never had what is spoken about in the Corinthian’s passage. As I mentioned to Jason, I did not post that passage because it came from the bible. I posted it because I loved what it had to say about love. Will all couples find all components of what makes for the best kind of love (in MY opinion)? Probably not, so it was certainly not my intention to set anyone up for failure in their relationships, but to give them something from which to learn.

You are so honest and beautiful when you talk about the hard times that come with relationships and I do appreciate you sharing that with the readers here. In reading that passage above, we can make goals to strive for either in our present relationships or the one that we want to find. To not look for perfection, but to look for ways to better ourselves and how we relate to others was my intention. And you seem to understand this.

What an amazing surprise you had for your husband. I’m thrilled for you and wish you many continued years of love and happiness. I know you can jump any obstacles that come along in your life or your relationship, Laurie, because you have the self worth and strength to make those jumps! Very often, most of the smallest sentiments are the most meaningful!

Thank you for sharing this wonderful story!

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

I truly admire your definition of love. The things you enjoy in your life certainly qualify more than a another person can sometimes. Having interests and things you love to do is GREAT! Also, the fact that you are your own best friend, in my opinion, is the way it should always be. Yes, it can get lonely, but it can also get lonely when you are surrounded by others. That is precisely why self love should be first love. It is the one person you should be able to count on unconditionally, always. I will be talking about three (3) “keys” and this is the first: Self esteem is KEY to a happy life. KEY number one (1).
The roads we travel in life, certainly have many bumps (the obstacles that get in our way and the nasty people we will run into), but through it all, if we can learn how to keep our inner being strong enough to jump those obstacles, we will come out on the other side stronger than before. We cannot allow others try to bring us down. KEY number two (2).

It is unfortunate that you were not taught some imperative things when you were growing up, but at the same time, looking at that with light, it forced you to become your own best friend. And again, despite the loneliness that sometimes comes along with that, it is the third key. So many people are their own worst enemies, bring themselves down and are mean to themselves. Who needs to be nasty to themselves when at times it seems as if we are fighting the world?

I would love to see you learn how to discontinue blaming yourself for many of the negative things that have happened to you in your life, including failed relationships and other things. You’re not forgettable and you have to keep hope that the flaws you do have (and everyone has them) will be loved by someone one day, unconditionally. And that will make your flaws actually desirable. Imagine that?

We all question God’s motives (if we believe in God) and many people have many different answers as to the dangerous question of “why” things happen. Many people have even screamed and cursed at God for putting them in certain situations. You are not alone in that!

I did not post that passage because it came from the “bible,” but instead because I loved what it had to say. So, I’m not going to ever touch the religion topic, but want to just instill in you (if you will take it) that there are people who will listen to you and help you get through some of the harsh experiences you’ve had and the negative feelings you hold. Whatever you have learned, can be unlearned and new, more positivity can be learned in its place. However, before this happens, you have to let go a bit and give in to hope. If you are not willing to make changes in your thought patterns, then it will be difficult for change to occur.

I will always believe that inner beauty will win out over exterior beauty that fades in time. It’s hard to see this for some and chemistry does play a huge role in a relationship; however, beauty is relative. And the most beautiful person can be unattractive if their insides do match their outsides.

In conclusion, I want to thank you sincerely for opening up here and sharing your thoughts in this comment you wrote. I implore you to please work to stop this “stinkin thinking,” as they call it in the psychology world. Take this phrase you said above, “Sh-t like that doesn’t happen,” and turn it around…”I can make anything that I want happen.”

Please feel free to write to me at DOCintheBiz and perhaps I can work with you to turn the negative into the positive. If not me, please find someone to talk to. When you do this, and it’s not a fantasy, good things will start to happen. There is light to be found, even in the darkest of tunnels.

Thank you again for your comment, Jason.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

This is a serious issue. Maybe many of us are afraid of love. It is easy to be attracted to someone, but it is not easy to trust someone enough to expose our inner self and that is what we must do. Both parties. One sided love relationships are not successful.
(strictly one man’s opinion)