Thank you so much for the insightful and incredibly powerful information you shared here in your comment. I will most certainly have a look at The Feeling Soul…I look forward to it. Nice to have you post!

Thank you again for your comment.
Dr. KC
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Some things I found about crying… 0ver 70 chemicals are released when crying emotional tears…. they are not there when crying from peeling an onion.

Crying can bring clarity…while experiencing the emotion its helpful to be an observer of the traumatic incident to gain a deeper and more expanded view or the traumatic incident… otherwise you end up back at the same place.

As Jennifer mentioned, I learned at a very early age to stuff things down… and then had to face up to them later in life. It was through tears, understanding and challenging my beliefs that resulted in healing… tears are helpful and physically healing, but not quite enough.

If you are interested, please have a look at The Feeling Soul - A Roadmap to Healing and Living… It is a very practical guide to emotions.

Blessings on your healing journeys!

Thank you so much for your comment. You seem to be really in touch with your feelings and what you need to do to help yourself. You understand from where your difficulty with crying came, realize that crying can indeed help you, and you listen to yourself, hence, making yourself and stronger and more healthy person. I commend you for that!

Thank you as well, for the informational link!
Please keep reading and commenting! Your opinions and words are always welcome here!

Dr. KC
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http://www.GLCzone.com

I grew up with a mom who cried a lot, most of it from self pity and manipulation so I can identify with those who talked about this. That said, she only did what she knew to do and learned from her parents. She is growing and for that I am grateful. I do cry, but sometimes I think I still struggle with crying because as a child I became master at stuffing my feelings inside. Maybe, as I think about it now, I saw her as weak and so I was afraid to show my feelings and be viewed as weak. Something for me to think about…. Anyway, now I view things much different and work to change my perception of things instead of stuffing them inside as hurt that eats away at me.

This is the best sentence in your post:
“Moving on from your feelings that made you cry in the first place can also be done by changing your thought pattern and your attitude towards getting yourself out of the upsetting thoughts and changing your mind-set to move on to better yourself.” This is sooooo huge!!! Sure, go ahead and cry, but resolve to become better from whatever made you cry. I would also add, first accept your feelings that made you cry, then resolve to change the thoughts that led to the feelings in the first place.

Tears of repentence, from feeling bad for something you’ve done wrong or stuffed inside can be so cleansing, as you talked about Dr. KC. Sometimes a deep cry can go a long way to help you release that junk inside and help you move forward. That has been my experience anyway. In fact someone may not be able to move forward UNLESS they do cry. That is something to think about……

Oh, I came across an author and a book a few months ago that talks about crying. He talks about how he stuffed everything inside for years, then learned how to cry. It’s called “The Feeling Soul.” The author is Mark Linden O’Meara and it is available at my website here:
http://tinyurl.com/5b72ha
I haven’t actually read this one, but it sounded like a really good read.

I applaud you! Thank you so much for sharing this with us! You have obviously come from a place where crying was not acceptable, but was able to pull away from that and are so much better off for it! I hope this message gets out to many (men and women) who feel negatively about crying!

Thanks again for your comment. I love when you visit, so please, keep reading and posting!

Dr. KC
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http://www.GLCzone.com

I agree with you about love and what a loving relationship should look like. I empathize with you that your husband is not as supportive as you would like him to be.

Have you considered getting counseling either face to face or online for the feelings and issues you are having? Possible couples counseling, even, could do wonders to have your husband understand your needs and visa versa. Please let me know what you decide to do.

Thank you for your comment and please keep reading and posting.

Dr. KC
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http://www.GLCzone.com

Thank you so much for your comment! I’m really glad you liked my article and I couldn’t agree with what you contributed here any more than I do!

Please keep reading and posting.

Dr. KC
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http://www.GLCzone.com

Thank you for your comment. I’m happy to be very different from others you’ve read as I will never exhibit a harsh tone, condemnation or judgment in my articles or towards anyone, ever. That I can promise.

I will answer your last question first. Yes, knowing the differences that cause behaviors for those diagnosed with mental/emotional disorders vs. those not diagnosed IS indeed, “real confusion”.

Also, yes, people with emotional/mental disorders can most definitely be manipulative! There is no doubt to this. There is a way, however, after knowing someone for a while to know the difference. I cannot give you a simple answer to this “how do I know?” as everyone is different and you really have to learn the patterns the person uses. Eventually after close observation of their habits, the different ways they relate to different people, and the way they go about getting what they want, you will hopefully be able to see the difference between true emotional distress and manipulation.

The same goes for the idea of how much one “blames” a person for their choices and/or behaviors vs. how much “blame” gets put on the disorder(s) with which they are diagnosed. This notion is extremely subjective and does not have a black and white answer.

Another important thing to remember is that there are never “good” or “bad” people in the world. And this could be just my opinion or way of thinking and others may disagree. I do believe, however, that there are good and bad choices and behaviors a person makes!

Everyone has some redeeming qualities no matter how horrible they may seem. It’s up to us, their loved ones or helping professionals to find the positive.

Thank you again for your comment and all your questions! Please keep reading and posting.

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com