You give great insight here! Everyday we come across diverse people in the different place we go. That certainly leads us to confront many unique personalities. If we learn how to deal with them all (or most of them), this will help us when we run into similar people in the future! Absolutely!

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Also I agree the notion that relationship is an important part of life. Afterall, we live in a community full of different people.

Yes, each “hat” is another aspect of our personality (good or bad) and we do in fact become more effective in dealing with others the more hats we know how to wear. Sometimes it’s not our choice what kind of hats we have, but we can control whether we wear them or not…and we can change them if they are not positive. This is a pretty powerful metaphor, the more I think deeply into it.

Some “hats” that we wear are beautiful and helpful, and others are in need of changing or altering so that we can be a better person.

You can indeed wear a hat that someone else asks or pressures you into wearing, but that brings us to knowing yourself and having enough self-esteem to tell the person that you don’t want to wear the hat. That takes courage and it doesn’t just happen to teenagers who often are faced with peer pressure. Adults deal with it too!

It’s great that you help people to find their inner confidence and I like the way you said you aid them in their assertiveness rather aggressiveness. We don’t want people to express themselves passive aggressively either. That is not a positive way to get across our emotions or feelings.

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It sounds like she has the strength “individuation” and is strong in “empathy.”

I think multiple hats makes us more effective — it gives us options for the situation.

I think where folks run into trouble is when they don’t know “who” they are and they have an identity crisis. I think it’s helpful to have a metaphor for who you are, because it shapes your day to day.

Another trouble scenarios is when somebody wears a hat that is counter to their values or not true to you. Integrity with yourself (the whole person) is important. I find this happens most often in people that are introverted and more people-connected than task-focused, and like to help. I help them find their confidence and be more assertive (otherwise, it turns into passive aggresive.)

Yes, we should always be authentic. This means that we will involuntarily show all the different sides that we have to all the different people we meet.

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Dr. KC
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It takes a little more work and creativity, but it is highly worth having the opportunity to truly be our authentic selves at home and in the work world. Great write up!